Today was the day that a very dear friend’s final chapter of his life was closed. This friend’s name was Kieron, and we first met in 2004 as part of an online social gathering. After meeting on that first occasion our friendship grew and grew, and I am truly honoured to be able to stand and be counted as a friend of his.
We had a fair bit in common; both had an evil sense of humour, quick-witted, loved old cars and were born 3 months apart – oh and loved a good sing-along and a gin or 9!!
His farewell was performed in two parts and, bearing in mind what the occasion was, it was a lovely day – one I will never forget. The day began with a service of thanksgiving at Kieron’s church, St. Mark’s Crescent Methodist church in Maidenhead. Kieron was a Christian and epitomised this in the fact that he would always help others whenever he could, and his faith certainly helped him in the final year of his life which was cut short due to cancer. Because the priest personally knew Kieron the whole delivery had a real personal note to it, which made it even more special. The church was filled and part of the service was devoted to Kieron’s life – a celebration as that was what today was all about. Stories were told of Kieron’s antics as a youngster and also about the man he was.
After the service we then went to the crematorium. Opening the committal service was the theme to Thunderbirds – he had always loved the programme and a ripple of laughter went through his friends and family. The same priest performed part of this service too, which again was really nice – I truly believe the priest was saddened on this day as we were.
For me, the most special part was when Kieron’s partner, Tom, recited a eulogy. Amazingly he completed it without breaking down – God only knows where he got the strength to do that, it was humbling. I want to share the poem with you here;
You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
Keiron loved music. The first piece was Elaine Paige, Memory, and we finished the day on Cabaret – I did a little jazz hands as we left the crematorium. We then went to chat, laugh, cry and reminisce with friends at his wake.
So, goodbye my dear friend, I will miss you sorely but you will live on in my heart and fond, fun memories. Until we meet again x
All the pictures below were from a holiday we all went on to Gran Canaria – it was one of many fun times.